Before teens can develop executive functioning skills, they need to be on board. Since teenagers crave autonomy, it’s important to approach them collaboratively. Instead of giving orders … share your observations, explain the challenge, and offer to help. Then, ask if they’re open to hearing your thoughts.
If they say no, respect that—but most will be curious enough to say yes. Seeking their consent builds trust and reinforces their self-determination, making them more likely to engage in the process.
Once they’re on board, patience is essential. Instead of tackling everything at once, focus on one area at a time and wait for mastery before moving on. Start with the skill that has the biggest impact on their daily life. Stay positive and flexible—when resistance arises, respond creatively. Keep explaining your reasoning so they understand the process and feel involved.
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Planning and Prioritization: The First Step to Academic Success
Planning isn’t just about organizing steps—it’s also about prioritizing what matters. Researchers Dawson and Guare define planning as “the ability to create a roadmap or steps to reach a goal while focusing on what’s most important.” It’s closely linked to other executive skills like task initiation, sustained attention, and goal-oriented persistence. Without these, even the most carefully thought-out plans can fall apart.
When kids are young, adults handle most planning for them. But by adolescence, expectations ramp up—juggling jobs, college prep, SATs, and extracurriculars. Teens often struggle because their goals feel far off, and their priorities may not align with those of parents or teachers. This disconnect can lead to frustration and avoidance.
How to Help Teens Plan and Prioritize Effectively
1. Use Incentives
Start by connecting planning skills to what matters most to them. If they dream of a big trip after graduation, help them map out the steps to make it happen. When they see how planning benefits their own goals, they’re more likely to engage. In time, this skill can be transferred to other areas in their life.
2. Collaborate Instead of Command
Rather than dictating when and how tasks should be done, give them ownership over the process. Instead of saying, “Clean your room before you leave,” try: “What’s your plan for cleaning your room before heading to your friend’s house at 7?” This shifts responsibility to them while maintaining expectations.
3. Start Small to Build Momentum
When teens feel overwhelmed, they often shut down. Help them break big tasks into smaller steps, set deadlines, and start with the easiest task first. And remember, progress fuels motivation. Tools like Pomodoro timers, checklists, or motivational playlists can also help them get started and stay focused.
Helping teens build executive functioning skills takes time, patience, and collaboration. By respecting their autonomy, focusing on one skill at a time, and using strategies that align with their goals, you can set them up for success.
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